A Note On Body Shaming
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Body Shaming
“Learn to love your body in all of its seasons.”
I recently saw a couple of comments on Instagram shaming people for their body and it made me upset and angry.
Don’t shame anyone for how their body looks.
Skinny,
large,
and
every between—
you have no idea what that person is battling on the inside.
Everyone has a different relationship with their body. Let’s stop judging people for how they look. Let’s start recognising qualities like kindness, empathy, and courage.
I recognised that the more self-critical I was, the more critical I was of others too. As I started to love myself more I find myself seeing beyond others bodies and feeling their heart more.
Seeing comments like that on Instagram makes me realise how much compassion and empathy we lack for others because we lack it for ourselves.
I get it.
We’ve all gone through stuff and so we project onto others to make ourselves feel better.
But we have no idea what is going on with them on the inside physically, emotionally and mentally.
I was very critical of my body for a long time.
I hated how it looked and felt because I was naturally skinny and because I had extreme eczema and hives everywhere for a number of years in my early 20s.
It’s unrealistic and exhausting for me to keep to a certain look 365 days a year. I finally exhaled when I gave myself permission to be more gentle with myself instead of holding myself to such a highly critical standard. There was no need for it.
What was I trying to prove?
Who was I trying to prove it to?
It’s natural for the human body to change and fluctuate.
However, the beauty and fitness industry certainly don’t help.
They are driven to make you feel not good enough, like you’re missing something, so they can continue to get your business.
One question that change ym perspective was this:
Are you working out because you love your body or because you hate your body?
Each of us has a personal relationship to our body and only we can decide what is best for us.
Be gentle with yourself and find your own rhythm.
I used to live by the weighing scale to ensure I put on weight. Others live by the weighing scale to ensure they lose it. Constantly looking in the mirror, judging ourselves against images on social media, billboards, films, adverts, other people in our lives.
We’re afraid to let our body change. It’s ok. It doesn’t mean we are any less worthy of love.
The body is our only real home. It’s the home for the soul.
Take care and be gentle with your body and how you speak to it.
If there is a message I’d leave you with its this:
Learn to love your body in all of its seasons.
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