Hidden Lack Mentality
Small numbers still scare me
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Hidden Lack Mentality
Someone close to me was recently ordering us a pizza.
They saw a deal that cost £3 more than the standard option.
“Too expensive,” they said.
I felt the same way.
But then I paused.
Because I’ve been doing the work on shifting my relationship to money. I’ve been shifting from scarcity to abundance. From “save for a rainy day” and “don’t waste money” to “money is about embodying an energy of abundance”.
And yet, £3 extra way enough to trip me up.
Funny, right?
A £1M house? Feels possible.
A £500 jacket? Why not.
A £1,000 watch? Great.
I’ll happily invest in quality.
I take pride in how I present myself.
I spend on self-care, on experiences, on health.
But a pizza for £3 more?
That got me.
That’s when it hit me:
We often heal the big money stories—but the real work hides in the small moments.
It’s not always about the house, the car, or the investment portfolio.
It’s about buying that coffee.
The extra side of guac.
Choosing to take Uber directly home instead of a train ride.
That knee-jerk “too much” response?
That’s where the programming still lives.
Not in logic.
In reflex.
Is this about the £3? Or is this a ghost from my past trying to keep me “safe”?
We can honour where we come from without letting it dictate where we go next.
Let yourself deserve the small things again.
With love,
V
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