In The Spotlight

Insights from a recent event

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In The Spotlight

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or a hostile universe.” - Albert Einstein

I was recently asked to host an event of 300+ attendees for a spiritual teacher. The Q&A was a fascinating look into what people are struggling with right now.

A few insights stirring inside me since:

1. Sometimes you get asked to do something you don’t feel ready for but God knows you’re ready. God has your back. Ever since reading The Surrender Experiment in 2019 I’m practising saying yes to life, especially when I don’t feel ready. I was quite literally in the spotlight on stage for a short while opening and closing the event, Afterwards, I came away realising I have so much dormant courage waiting to be used. Each moment I say yes to is a bridge between the current version of myself and the next.

2. We can get stuck doing shadow work as an excuse not to be happy. How many of us keep digging into the past hoping to find one more piece of the puzzle in order to move forward, when in fact we’re just afraid to move on? Who are we if we’re not searching? Why can’t we just let ourselves be happy?

3. We play small and avoid being fully ourselves because we learned to receive love and connection from our caregivers by keeping parts of ourselves hidden.

4. Everyone is struggling with connection—to themselves, with others, and to life in some way. We’re struggling with a past relationship, a current one, or anxious about a future one.

5. The best space holders are those who are compassionate, but just like knives, they cut straight to the truth.

6. Family is a system. The dysfunction in the family plays out in business. If we don’t heal from it, we take it with us wherever we go. The cutthroat leader who thinks they’re doing what needs to be done to grow, is projecting their insecurities into the very foundation of the success they are trying to create. The poison becomes embedded in their success.

7. The hardest homework for me has been to have fun for no other reason then because it feels good. I suspect this is true for many of us.

8. When you’re developing as a child and you aren’t given the autonomy to fully express, at some point you will feel the urge to break free so that you can be yourself. You will return to that stage of development to complete your journey.

9. I was asked what my top value in life is right now. For me its emotional freedom. It’s the only type of freedom that truly exists. To not be shackled by the weight of my past. We do so much to escape our past. You can be in a relationship and still feel alone. You can have money and still feel unsuccessful. You can throw yourself into work and business and still feel unfulfilled. You can move abroad and live in a beautiful place and still feel held back by your past. If you aren’t free to be yourself, you aren’t free at all.

With love,

V

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