How Empty Are You?

Creating space for the unknown

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Soul Circle

Soul Circle is a monthly group space to help you feel more safe and less lonely. You’ll connect deeply with me and other courageous open hearted souls who are on a self-discovery journey just like you.

What do you get?

• a guided meditation,

• wisdom teachings on soulful topics,

• live Q&A with me and reflective questions,

• a safe space to release the heaviness in your heart!!!

Next gathering is Tuesday 23rd July at 6PM BST (replay will be available).

Your Intuition Is Waiting

I was recently invited to record a podcast with my friend Bunny Love-Schock and we had the most amazing conversation.

We talked about:

• my relationship to God

• becoming a clear channel for the divine

• listening to your intuition and surrendering

• my upbringing and healing tools I’ve used

+ so much more!

There is SO much magic in this conversation. I really enjoyed it. Listen on any podcast platform now!

How Empty Are You?

“O my friend, if you are longing to be written on, become a blank page.” - Rumi

Photo by pine watt on Unsplash

In the last 10 months since moving away from my parents I’ve been learning to be more gentle with myself. To let go of the need to always be busy to feel productive. To let go of the guilt associated with creating space and doing “nothing”.

I think my need to be busy all the time stems from a childhood of being made to feel “lazy” for doing nothing, always having to walk on egg shells, and being in fight or flight most of the time—never really able to fully exhale.

Most of the time I felt anxious living with my parents if I wasn’t seen to be “doing” anything productive because I felt like I wasn’t “successful enough” to deserve rest.

I didn’t really have permission to rest unless I was sick.

I’m realising now that space is healthy and resting is productive.

There doesn’t need to be any other reason for it other than, because it feels good.

Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too.

Since moving into a new apartment in 2023 I’ve had the space to unpack the burdens I’ve been carrying. I didn’t realise how much the canvas of my life was full of other people’s stuff. I’m on a journey of wiping it clean so it is blank once again. Unloading the burden from my shoulders and learning to breathe.

For years I was obsessed filling up every minute of the day with something productive towards the next milestone. The need to be always be working toward something, instead of simply being here and now. My goals and reading material would be geared towards future progress. My behaviour came from a place of unworthiness. Not really knowing who I was. I’m still figuring it out.

I’ve noticed that the energy of London (my home town) treats life like a race and I think its not the only place in the world that feels this way.

Where are we going so fast?

The finish line is death…

Slow down.

Rest.

Recharge.

Recover.

Rediscover.

My soul whispers.

I suspect those with calendars that are always full are escaping themselves (I know I was). Being a workaholic doesn’t necessarily mean you love work. What you’re really saying is: I don’t like any other area of my life so I’m not going to create any space to think about it by focusing on work all the time.

As I began to create space it felt uncomfortable because being busy felt so natural to my body.

But here’s the thing:

What is waiting for you cannot enter into your world if you do not welcome it with enough room to unpack.

When you do create the space it’ll be uncomfortable because you won’t know what happens next. You’ll be acquainted with the unknown. And in that space is where you can began to hear the whispers of your soul (what you really need to be nourished along your journey).

The price of coming closer to the divine is giving up your need to always understand.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up.

It means giving up your anxiousness about the unknown.

The unknown is where all possibilities lay.

Only in moving from the known to the unknown can you experience something new. Otherwise, you’re playing your life on loop over and over controlling the outcome and your life becomes pretty predictable.

So then, what can you let go of right now?

Think about this in terms of:

• people,

• places,

• ideas,

• experiences,

• emotions,

• conversations,

• beliefs,

• thoughts,

• actions.

3 sentences I enjoyed reading this week:

1. I recently discovered

   Heidi Joy
   and her sentence on emotional abuse really spoke to me. Her writing is courageous and vulnerable. I have experienced emotional abuse firsthand. When I was reading her words the whisper that came through “I felt small”. Because that’s what abuse does. The abuser wears you down until you feel unworthy and small. You end up seeking validation from them to feel good enough, and it never nourishes you.

2. Here’s a beautiful line from

Sarah Faith Gottesdiener

—it’s important to tune into your nervous system and notice how the energy of the person is making you feel. So many of us are disconnected from our body so we aren’t able to properly tune into this and tolerate whatever we can get. In the end all we really want from a partner is someone who we can exhale around and say to ourself “I feel safe.”

3. Wise words from

Niall McGivern

—listen to your intuition because it is the voice of your soul. It will guide you. Deep down , you know the answers.

One love 🖤

V