How *NOT* To Make Everyone Happy
Some reminders from recent conversations.
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I love discovering new music to write to.
As some of you may know, I’ve been curating a playlist of my favourite writing instrumentals over the last 4 years, and I’m constantly adding to it.
You can access it here if you want to listen to them.
Earlier this week, I stumbled upon a new addition, which I first discovered as a live performance video. Watching the instrumentalists play with such passion, alignment, and harmony was mesmerizing—it felt like witnessing a single brain firing neurons in the most beautiful way imaginable.
Instead of just sharing the Spotify link, I’m sharing the YouTube video so you can experience it visually as well. I invite you to take 7 minutes to enjoy this incredible performance!
Use Your Voice
"Silence in the face of injustice is complicity with the opressor" - Ginetta Sagan
Nuggets of wisdom inspired by some recent conversations I’ve been having:
You can’t keep everyone happy. To try to do so is an exhausting endeavour.
Some things need to end for better things to begin.
Old systems and outdated ways of thinking must go. We’ve inherited structures and relationship dynamics from the generations before us, but we don’t have to keep them alive. We can either feed into what doesn’t work, or build something new—something rooted in peace, harmony, and emotional freedom. Sometimes to create a new reality we have to break from existing relationships and set boundaries. Tear down old infrastructure and build something of our own. Maybe not even tear it down. Maybe by focusing on building something new, the old slowly dissolves. True freedom is living in a way that serves your soul, not one that appeases others.
Sometimes you cannot stay in your comfort zone and find the solution. You may be required to step outside of that, raise your level of self-respect, and have some tough overdue conversations.
If they disrespect your boundary after you’ve set it, think about what that means about how much they actually respect you. They’re often trying to control the narrative by not listening to you.
When making a decision ask yourself; does this bring me peace?
We overcomplicate things. Sometimes the simple questions hold the answer we’ve been avoiding or waiting to discover.
Starting something new isn’t easy. The first person to break the cycle will often be seen as the “bad guy” or “bad girl.” You can’t control how others see you. But silence is complicity. When you don’t speak up, you betray yourself. When you speak your truth, you honor your voice and your worth. As a result, you might be seen as the troublemaker because you want to do things a different way. Remember, different doesn’t mean wrong.
You can’t always avoid conflict. Sometimes anger needs to surface—not to harm, but to create boundaries. Boundaries protect your peace and give your voice the space it deserves. Don’t be afraid to express your anger. If it wasn’t acknowledged or validated growing up, it doesn’t mean it’s not justified. You have a right to express yourself as authentically as you can, no matter how scary it is. Be courageous.
Your role is not to emotionally regulate others or to worry about how they may receive your expression. Your role is to authentically express yourself. What is on the edge of your soul that is yearning to come forth today?
Not everyone will walk into this next chapter with you. Some people are only meant to be part of your story for a while. Let them go. Create space for new people and new experiences. It’s about time you shed your old skin and started a new story.
Ask yourself this: Do I want to stay where I am? Or do I want something different?
If you want change, you must embrace the discomfort that may come with it.
Compassion can look like confrontation. Being compassionate towards yourself means honouring your truth. Loving yourself enough not to put up with the illusion any longer. Sometimes, the most respectful thing you can do is express your anger to someone who’s causing destruction. Let them know what you aren’t willing to tolerate. If they cross the boundary again, you decide their role in your life—redefined or removed.
Change brings grief. It’s okay to feel sadness when something ends. However, be sure not to allow that to turn into misplaced anger towards others unncessarily.
Destruction and creation are two sides of the same coin. For the new to be born, the old must fall away.
A healthy relationship isn’t an easy one. It becomes easy if you choose to consistently show up with vulnerability and have the hard conversations when you need to in order to create a solid foundation of safety between the two of you.
Claim back all those scattered parts of you left in the history of your past. Call them back now. Piece by piece. So you can feel whole once again. You were made to feel broken along the way by those who wanted to control you and feel powerful because they were hurt. You left a part of you in each situation that broke you. Call all your immense power back into this moment here and now. Hurt people, hurt people. Healed people, heal people.
It’s ok to disappoint others in pursuit of your heart’s desire. Honour your souls expression with a white hot fiery unstoppable passion.
Is there anything you’d add to this list as #20?
Love,
V
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Beautiful words my Love strong points x
Great video. Thanks for sharing your music and your lovely thoughts and inspirations, Vipul!