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31 Reflections About Life

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Earlier this week on May 30th I turned 31 so I wanted to share 31 reflections I’ve had about life since walking this earth.

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1. There is only one reality. There is a Consciousness, Presence, Awareness, that is the foundation of everything we experience. The variety of people, places and possessions is an expression of this truth. The world we are experiencing is based on our five senses. Those senses are connected to a brain that is in darkness inside the skull. There is a quiet reality beyond the five senses which is Truth.

2. It's better to walk in the right direction than to run in the wrong one. Don't feel rushed to make life decisions because society is moving in a particular direction. Take the time to get to know yourself. Let go of the idea that you'll be left behind. You can never be behind when you follow your soul. It will always guide you to the right place at the right time. You'll be right where you need to be for your particular journey. Always follow the whispers of the soul.

3. The past does not exist. Everything you experienced happened in the present. Suffering is replaying moments wondering what you would've done differently. You did the best you could based on the level of awareness you had at that time. You cannot change that now. What you can change is how you show up today and how you create your future. Freedom is found in consciously creating the present.

4. Comparison is silly. Everyone’s whole life isn’t on social media. Be careful not to compare your life to a carefully curated snapshot of someone else’s. It’s only a fraction of what’s really happening to them.

5. Resting is necessary. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. We live in a society that wants to race ahead. Where are we going so fast? The finish line is death. Slow down. Rest. Recharge. Recover. Give yourself a break without feeling guilty - you deserve it.

6. The gift is you. A gift isn’t something outside of you that you need to pursue or find. You were born to express yourself in a way that is unique to you. Begin to value yourself for what you’re worth.

7. Trusting yourself is a form of self-love. Let your life be guided by your spirit in everything you do. Trust yourself to make the right decisions about your life.

8. Don’t be rigid about anything. Once you become black and white about something, you’re trapped. For example, your morning routine could change depending on what stage of life you’re in. Different healing tools will be required at different stages of your life. Let your beliefs and actions change as you change.

9. Listen to your intuition about everything. It is your internal tour guide on this journey of life. It will take you to the most beautiful places if you trust it.

10. Karma is real. If someone has done something unpleasant to you, don’t try to get back at them. An eye for an eye will make the world go blind. Karma is creating your future based on your current actions. It is a law of the Universe. Because we are all one, whatever you do to someone else, you are really doing to yourself. This is why karma is like a boomerang. Eventually, whatever you put out (good or bad) will come back to you. Be intentional about what you radiate.

11. Intimacy isn’t just about sex. Intimacy is the ability to create a conscious safe space for one another to feel deeply seen and heard. A space you can both be vulnerable and allow your true self to play. A space to honour every part of yourself. Shouting to get your point across comes from a place of insecurity rather than collaboration and curiosity. Respect the fact that there will be a difference in emotions or opinion. Intimacy starts outside the bedroom in your daily interactions.

12. Your parents are humans with a past. They come with baggage. They might not be everything we want them to be but they are what we need for our growth if we choose to see it that way.

13. Healing happens in layers. Just because you’ve addressed something once doesn’t mean it won’t come up again. Don’t be surprised if it does.

14. There is no destination that will make you happy. The fun is in the journey. Don’t postpone your contentment, peace and happiness for a future milestone, you’ll never get there. You’re rewiring your brain to think happiness is outside of you and in the future somewhere. Therefore when you get to the milestone that you think will make you happy, it won’t, because you’ll be thinking about the next milestone. Happiness is a perspective.

15. Expect the unexpected. What you want may enter your life when you least expect it, want it, or are ready for it. You’ll never truly be ready for anything.

16. There will always be someone who won’t approve of your choices. If you genuinely feel you’re doing the right thing, do it anyway.

17. Friendship is a sacred gift. Honour and appreciate those who have stood by you. Those souls who make you feel like home. Those who genuinely celebrate you and want the best for you. Those who make you laugh and who you can share tears and fears with. They are rare.

18. Be kind and compassionate. You never know what someone is going through especially when they seem to have it altogether.

19. Most people project their past onto their present. Be aware that when someone is responding to you they are likely not responding objectively to what you’ve said, but their interpretation of what you said based on everything that has happened to them in their past. Their trauma is influencing their responses.

20. Silence is soothing. Find time for silence every day to calm your nervous system. Most of us are too overstimulated.

21. Forgive yourself and others often. It will emotionally free you. Stop beating yourself up and let go of the energetic cords you have attached to all those who have done wrong by you.

22. Listen more and talk less. Someone once told me we have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. Listen twice as much as you talk. Listening is a great way to really feel what someone is saying and connect with them on a deeper level. Most of us haven’t been given the opportunity to be seen and heard properly. To really listen to someone in silence is a great act of love. “The Lips of wisdom are sealed except to the ears of understanding” - The Kybalion

23. Travel more. See as much of the world as you can.

24. Vulnerability is lacking in communication. We never talk about the thing underneath the thing to address the truth of the matter. We’re afraid to express how we truly feel.

25. Set boundaries to protect your peace. Your energy is precious. Not everyone should have priority access to you. Don’t allow yourself to be drowned in energy that does not align to your highest calling.

26. Death can be inspiring. Realising we only have a limited time in this body can help you live more fully. Don’t wait to live after you die. Experience heaven on earth by choosing to live an expansive life and making choices that feel good to you.

27. Shame only has power if you hide your scars. Wear them proudly and shame disappears and takes you from feeling unworthy to empowered.

28. Figure out who you are. If you do not figure out who you are and what you want from life you will always become prey to someone else’s marketing plan.

29. Question everything. Your identity and the information about the world around you has been fed to you by others. Do not accept it as truth. Lean into curiosity and find out for yourself.

30. Grief, love and celebration go together. When you grieve something or someone, you’re acknowledging the end of something but it also marks the beginning of something new. The depth of your grief is a reflection of the depth of your love.

31. You can know knowledge, but you can only be wise. Don’t outsource your power by listening to lots of books, audiobooks, podcasts and watching videos. It can become an escape you use to distract yourself from how you’re actually feeling and the wisdom that lives within you. Are you giving more space to other peoples voices rather than your own?What does your voice say? Are you giving it space to be heard?

1 thing I’m loving right now

“Music based on 432hz will support humanity on its way towards spiritual freedom.” - Rudolph Steiner

In the last few weeks I have been listening to an Om meditation at 432hz. Om (or Aum) is the original sound that permeates through all of creation. Feel free to relax and listen or if you decide to chant along then feel it deep inside your belly and let it radiate throughout your body.

One love,

V

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