Reflections From An Old Soul - PART 2

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• Find clarity amidst the emotional turbulence you’re feeling,

• Reconnect with your intuition more deeply,

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Reflections From An Old Soul - PART 2

“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames” - Rumi

If you missed PART 1 you can read it here however you don’t need to read it in order to read this one. Each of these pieces are independent as I talk about different things.

Grab a warm brew and settle into a comfortable place…

• I’m appreciating conversations with like-hearted souls more and more. Each time I get introduced to someone new I feel a deep sense of new family. Good people know good people so naturally my network expands into those whose heart is open and want to see the world in a better place. Those who are fuelled by a divine passion to experience the depth and breadth of life. We all have divine sparks within us and when we come near other sparks who fan our flame we feel more energised. Its like coming closer to God.

• Shiva and Shakti—Yin and Yang. Balance of both energies are required for a harmonious life. Shiva and Shakti are represented as the masculine and feminine energies in Hindu philosophy. The unmanfested reality and the manifested reality. The potential and kinetic energies. I’m realising there is a flow to life that is beyond our logical capability to grasp. A softness must occur that simultaneously allows for the quietening of the mind and the receptivity and activation of the soul. In this era we are very in our head. We live almost all of our daily lives up there. Our energy is used by our constant thoughts. If not there then with digestion of food. If not there then sex. We rarely touch the reality beneath this. I think that’s where the magic is.

  

  Image of Shiva/Shakti by Meenakshi from Adobe Stock

• During my 20s I became very focused on cultivating masculine energy. I recognise now that it was a means to protect myself from further hurt. To always be guarded. I always felt like I needed to fight to protect my life. Fight or flight all the time. Living my life like I needed to push and grind 24/7 without rest because I never felt good enough. I was oblivious to any feminine qualities because my idea of being a man was skewed. Strong. No need to rest. No help. I was the eldest of three sons I felt like I needed to have all the answers. I’m learning to accept help more. It’s ok not to know all the answers and to lean on others for support. I’m creating more space for feminine flow. I’m learning to embrace my emotions and my story more deeply.

• I’m learning to embrace life fully yet remain unattached. Recognising that things are always transient and changing. Death has an appointment with all of us in the end so I’m holding life loosely—giving it space to breathe. Giving it space to do its thing without allowing myself to get so caught up in it all. This is different from being detached. Being detached feels like an unhooking from life, a distancing, a pulling away, an unplugging. Being unattached isn’t pulling away. It’s being pulled towards life with a sense of peace as you go through it.

• I’ve been noticing my body shifting and changing as my skin recently got inflamed. This used to really derail and upset me as I’ve had really bad experiences with this in the past. However, I’m noticing I’m becoming less attached to the fluctuations of the body. The body will always change. Change is the nature of this world. I’m noticing just how tightly we try to hold on to a perfect appearance of ourselves all of the time. It’s important to stay grounded in our body and take care of it, but not get too attached to its appearance. I’m slowly associating more with my true unchanging faceless nameless essence—my soul. My identity is slowly being rooted in that truth instead of my external identity.

• When people compliment me about my ability to coach or write beautiful words, I try to find the balance between fully receiving their praise and remaining humble to the fact that this is a gift coming through me, not from me.

• You don’t have to leave the material world behind to be spiritual. You must embrace it fully. Allow your desires to be fulfilled because only then can you start to become curious about something deeper. Your desire then becomes to discover a deeper sense of peace and contentment in life. To not be pulled by the mind externally toward all the shiny objects. As the Indian saint Sri Ramana Maharani once said:

  “The mind turned outwards is ego, the mind turned inwards is the Self.”

• I recently asked this question in a workshop I did that sparked a lot of reflection: what truth are you afraid to face right now?

• Message to all the previous versions of me who struggled and beat himself up:

  Things will always get better. I’m sorry for punishing you for not being good enough when you were always enough. The world made you feel less than. When a cloud covers the Sun it doesn't take away the Sun’s purity and power of light. It is simply blocking it from shining with full impact. Keep shining.

• I feel guilty for thinking about what I lacked from my upbringing—emotional availability. I feel guilty because I had all my physical and educational needs met. But, it is my truth. I’m allowing myself to become more comfortable with that. Recognising that I received a lot of great stuff but I didn't get the emotional nurturing that I craved. That is not the fault of my parents’ as they were not taught how to be emotionally present, they did what was best for them. However, that doesn’t stop me from feeling sad about what the little boy inside needed. What we experience (or don’t experience) as children has a ripple effect in our bodies for years into adulthood. In time, we end up teaching that which we needed to learn.

• People settle for partners from a place of insecurity. Pressure of expectation from their parents or fear of being lonely. Remember this: everyone should be loved, but not everyone should be your partner.

• I didn’t get married and have kids and settle down by 30. I’m now 31 and only now beginning to question the reason for marriage. Why do we do it? Loneliness? Because we’re told it’s what will make you happy? Because it’s the right thing to do? I don’t know. I’m beginning to redefine my partnership as a Divine Union. A masculine and feminine energy coming together to bring healing to each other and the world. This is part of something bigger that I can’t fathom.

• I’m learning that a healthy relationship includes honest, transparent, vulnerable communication. Emotional availability is missing in relationships these days.