Hi V 😀, this is a delicate one for me. From my own experience, sharing my intimate feelings or memories around the death of a loved one had to arrive at its own pace. I do remember one friend asking about my Mum at the 1st anniversary, and it was still too raw and heavy in my heart to step into that reminiscing conversation.
When a friend lost his brother to suicide, I remembered my unpredictable grief cycle and chose to mark that anniversary with acknowledgment of the day and silent presence. I sensed that to prompt a conversation would have been: "How may I support him?" (about me), rather than honouring wherever my friend was on his personal grief timeline. I was not awkward to talk about death. I was conscious that he may have felt awkward sharing death with the living. ✨
My husband passed away on February 23rd of 2024. His two sons are coming to visit me on that date and we are going to spread his ashes together. I look forward to this ritual and the time I get to spend with them. I talk about my husband who was the love of my life all the time and feel his presence often. Thank you for posting this and not denying the inevitable.
Thank you! And thank you for song share 🎶❤️
Hi V 😀, this is a delicate one for me. From my own experience, sharing my intimate feelings or memories around the death of a loved one had to arrive at its own pace. I do remember one friend asking about my Mum at the 1st anniversary, and it was still too raw and heavy in my heart to step into that reminiscing conversation.
When a friend lost his brother to suicide, I remembered my unpredictable grief cycle and chose to mark that anniversary with acknowledgment of the day and silent presence. I sensed that to prompt a conversation would have been: "How may I support him?" (about me), rather than honouring wherever my friend was on his personal grief timeline. I was not awkward to talk about death. I was conscious that he may have felt awkward sharing death with the living. ✨
My husband passed away on February 23rd of 2024. His two sons are coming to visit me on that date and we are going to spread his ashes together. I look forward to this ritual and the time I get to spend with them. I talk about my husband who was the love of my life all the time and feel his presence often. Thank you for posting this and not denying the inevitable.